Patrick Schreiner asks, "Are You Free to NOT Drink?" Good read.
If you can't go without a drink, if you subtly avoid socializing with those who don't, you don't know freedom in Christ.
When I speak to pastors I say, "There is only one thing that will enable you to survive, and that's the gospel. It's not whether your church grows or not. It's not having the right leadership principle. All of those things might be helpful, but the gospel is the only thing that will save you in ministry." You inevitably face crises, slander, unfair criticism, pressure to perform in your professional and personal life. You have to have a model marriage. You've got to have the model children. You've got to be the one logging hours of private prayer every day. I mean there is heavy-duty pressure on pastors to be spiritual giants. What I love about the freeing, liberating power of the gospel is I can stand up on a Sunday morning without fear or reservation and be able to identify my own idols in front of my people. I'll say things like, "I hate to admit this, but part of my motivation for preparing the sermon that I am preaching today is because I want you to think I'm a good preacher. It accentuates my sense of worth." Is that embarrassing to admit? Absolutely! But it's incredibly liberating. I don't have to feel like I have to always be on, that I always have to be performing well, that every sermon's got to be a homerun, that I've got to be modeling perfect piety before all of our people. The pressure's off. Jesus measured up so I wouldn't have to live under the enslaving pressure of measuring up for others. And that's good news.
The reality is there are biblical absolutes, but at the level of principles rather than processes. Good parenting is not about adopting certain techniques. It’s about living as part of God’s story and letting God’s good news shape your values, attitudes and behavior.
This is a book about gospel-centered families. The word “gospel” means “good news”. So this is a book offering good news for families. It offers ideas to help you negotiate the sometimes troubled waters of family life.
But our good news is more than good advice. It’s more than tips based on experience. It’s about the good news of life, hope, forgiveness and freedom in Jesus, and how this good news impacts family life.
The Bible isn’t a manual on parenting. You can’t look under “D” for “discipline” or “T” for “teenagers”. The Bible is a story – the story of God’s salvation. It tells the story of the creation of the world, the rebellion of humanity, the promises God made to Israel and the coming of God’s Son, Jesus. It tells us how God designed the world, what’s gone wrong and how God is putting the world right again through Jesus.
This book shows how this wonderful story intersects with the story of your family. The Bible story can become the story of what God designed your family to be, what goes wrong in your family and how God can put your family right again through His Son, Jesus.
There are two common, contrasting approaches to parenting. Some people emphasize that every family is different and so parents need to make it up as they go along. Other people emphasize biblical absolutes and so prescribe precise techniques. The reality is there are biblical absolutes, but at the level of principles rather than processes. Good parenting is not about adopting certain techniques. It’s about living as part of God’s story and letting God’s good news shape your values, attitudes and behavior.
Families come in all different shapes and sizes. Two parents, single parents, step-parents. Several children, an only child, stepchildren. We tried not to assume every family fits the two parents with 2.4 children mold. We recognize that single parents face extra challenges while step-children raise their own unique issues. But to make life easier we’ll sometimes speak of your child, sometimes of your children; of a parent and parents.
The gospel makes a claim on our lives. It calls us to change. It calls us to holiness and obedience. So we need to preach the gospel to one another and call each other to greater holiness and obedience. But we will never be able to heed the call of the gospel if we don’t also have the comfort of the gospel. We need to understand that in Christ our sins are forgiven. I can’t live the life God wants me to live if by living it I think God will love me more. I first need to know that God loves me and he couldn’t possibly love me more because his love is already endless. It is the knowledge and experience of that love that enables me to strive for greater holiness. We obey not in order for God to love us, but because he already does.